Can’t resist this quote

This is how you lose her…

“You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her:

the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery,

the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five,

the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another,

the scent of new books in the store,

the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets.

You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget.

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is.

When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished.

When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. 

When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her.

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her.”

Excerpt from: Junot Diaz: ‘This is How You Lose Her’

29 comments on “Can’t resist this quote

  1. phoenixasubbie says:

    I absolutely love this. Love it. May I reblog?

  2. oceanswater says:

    I also love this. It is so very True.

  3. phoenixasubbie says:

    Reblogged this on Surrendered Heart and commented:
    Thank you to Errantsatiety for sharing this. As always she has or finds the most beautiful words. xx

  4. jayne says:

    well, that made me cry…just beautiful p.s. I have a moon post – figured I’d post it when the moon is full. : )

  5. Blade says:

    Reblogged this on ThoughtsOfSir.

  6. eriklehman says:

    Magnificent post! Love. x

  7. complicitgrace says:

    Yes yes and yes….ty

  8. Reblogged this on disillusionedyoungone and commented:
    So beautiful and true. I had to reblog!

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  10. Reblogged this on Betty and beans and commented:
    I’ll join the reblogging bandwagon.

  11. Reblogged this on Growing Up Little and commented:
    This is beautifully put….

  12. This is really beautiful!! It’s really where I’m at this week and well it’s beautiful thanks

  13. Reblogged this on daddyslittlehmongslut's Blog and commented:
    This is just beautiful I couldn’t resist stealing it and re blogging it

  14. Can someone tell me what page this excerpt is from?

    • It actually isn’t in the copy I have, although I have the Kindle version. I purchased the book to read after reading this excerpt. Like many others I have shared this with the authors name (although many I’ve seen don’t even do that) and what seems to be the title but in all honesty it doesn’t appear to actually come from this book. I have been trying to find out for a couple of weeks but no one who has shared it has returned my queries about where it comes from.

  15. Reblogged this on The Woman Invisible and commented:
    Just found this my my new friend and really had to share…this is lovely

  16. LOVE and reblogged without even asking….sorry! 🙂

  17. boisuili says:

    Reblogged this on WORD ON PAPER.

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